Marriage problem can anyone help?

my husband likes to start fights. even over the littlest things. like i wanted to look for a switch in the car and he said he was hot and i said to sit in the passenger side and he kept complaining and then he said im getting irritated. when all he had to do was go around the the passenger side while i looked for the switch and then it turned into a fight. he has a problem with yelling and swearing a bit too much. i keep telling him to go to therapy and he ignores me. i have had just about enough of his outbursts. another example is when i was on google for directions and the road was named nevada but the road we needed to turn on was arvada and said it was a typo. i said no its not its a road and he turned that into a fight because he thinks he is right all the time and i had to actually show him the map to prove he was wrong. its like he doesnt think im right or trust me or something. when he gets mad he drives bad and slams doors and breaks things which i think are unacceptable behavior. he blames work for everything and i cant do anything about that. im really thinking of just leaving..what can i do? he wont listen to meMarriage problem can anyone help?
Go to therapy with him,maybe not together at first.Other than that leave it won't get any better by itself.
I dont know how long you have been married or if you have children but this is a un healthy situation and believe me I have seen it before in my job (I am a deputy Sheriff) next he will start hitting you and still he will blame it on the job. time to exit my dear before the inevatable happens.. Please seek help even though he wont.. I wish you luck and i wish you love.,,,, Grant M in PennsylvaniaMarriage problem can anyone help?
hi hun

sorry to hear all that ' but you need to get away from him .Marriage problem can anyone help?
Funny how the majority of people rush to say , " Leave him" without really taking the time to provide a helpful or rather insightful answer.



Marriage takes work. marriage takes communication. Above all else you need to have a mutual respect for one another.



There are always two sides to every story and I know some things prove to be more difficult than it may come across in text. It sounds to me, and this is just an outsider's opinion, looking in, of course.. that you and he suffer from some communicating problems is all.



Take the whole road name typo thing. This whole arguement could have been avoided had you simply changed the way you responded to his statement. Its not always a matter of whether or not hes right or your right. Sometimes the right thing to do is just agree to disagree.. or simply state, " I understand how you can see it that way, but it actually is a road, here let me show you.." This wouldn't have come across so ' in your face' as " No, it's not, it;s a road." did.



I don't know.. marriage takes a lot of work. I think the biggest mistake nowadays is people get married way too soon without realizing what the committment really means and then are rushed to end things at the first sign of difficulties.



I eloped at 18, and am all too familiar with these pointless and oftentimes even silly arguements.. we worked through them because at the end of the day we knew we had made a committment to one another. He has gotten better at communicating actually and hardly ever loses his temper.



Unfortunately, I am leaving him but it has nothing to do with miscommunication anymore.. it is simply something that can not be fixed. But anyway, hope this helped a bit.



I wish you the best of luck.
He can't argue with out you. This will sound horrible, but just close your mouth. Don't say a word to him, don't try to prove anything...stop encouraging him. He will feel like a dick if he keeps up the antics. He is having problems at work, you need to be supportive and make home a place he WANTS to come home to...because he obviously is not enjoying that either.